Betsy’s Light

Thirty years ago when our friendship was forming, I made her a painted bowl for her incredible black kernel popcorn she made. It said, “We cannot tell the precise moment when friendship is formed. As in filling a vessel drop by drop, there is at last a drop which makes it run over; so in a series of kindnesses there is at last one which makes the heart run over.”  I have been swimming in an ocean.

I feel like the luckiest person in the world to have her bright light in my life… and then the saddest person that she is gone. She called the 6 of us her “Besties,” and made sure we knew it.

She would be the first one to say that we don’t know how much time we are getting and she was on fire to make her life meaningful, to make sure others knew how much she cared for them.

“Nothing is created, nothing is destroyed, everything transforms.” That’s how the French chemist Antoine Lavoisier summarized what we call the Law of Conservation of Energy.  It means this: the total amount of energy in the universe remains constant. When a star burns out, its elements become the soil of new stars. When a leaf decays, it becomes the nourishment of the next spring. When your body releases its final breath, the energy that once held it together does not vanish — it returns to the great field of life.

I believe once two consciousnesses have intertwined in love, their energy remains entangled. The death of a body does not sever this; it changes the mode of communication. Dreams, intuition, moments of peace that seem to come from nowhere — these are the new correspondences of the entangled heart.

In this light, grief is not an ending but an initiation — a reorientation toward the invisible. I learned this when my mother died. When you grieve, you are learning a new way to love, one not dependent on form. You are learning to speak the language of light. At first, the lessons come as heartache and longing. But with time, they evolve into presence — a knowing that you and your loved one are still in conversation, still shaping one another.

Your choices become their legacy in motion.

Your acts of love are how they continue to create in the world.

The more you live in heart coherence, the easier this connection becomes.

Love recognizes its own frequency.

To live connected to those who have passed is not to dwell in the past — it is to let their essence inform your way of being.

Ask yourself, What would they love to see me create now? Then do that — cook a meal with joy, plant more trees, help a new friend, forgive an old wound, tell someone you love them.

In this way you keep their light expanding.❤️💫

– Aspiring to be a Happy Go Lucky Girl